Making a woman your #WCW or a man your #MCM is cool. Taking usies, dates, and gifts? Who would turn that down? But do you know whats even cooler? Real Love. Real love isn’t material things, it isn’t a picture on social media that everyone swoons over, or 100 long stem roses. Loving is knowing how to be there for someone when they need you. Love is not hitting below the belt when you argue. Love is not kicking a person when they are down. Trying to distinguish real love from someone deeply caring about you is one of the hardest things ever. It’s why people end up dating for 6,9,10 years before calling it quits.
First Ask yourself:
Does this person care about my interest?
Does this person support me?
When I am going through a tragic situation are they right beside me cheering me on, Telling me I can do this?
When I cry do they hold me? (Human touch is the most important healing remedy when sad or depressed)
Does this person point out my worst flaws?
Does this person say things to keep me down?
Is this person kind to me?
Is this person sneaky?
Do they lie to me?
What is the frequency of them doing or not doing these things?
Now ask yourself those same questions in regards to them. If they aren’t even treating you the way that you are treating them (depending on the frequency), there is a high possibility that they just don’t love you in the way that you love them. They might have love for you. They might care about you. They might love you on social media. They might love the fact that you love them so hard, but they don’t have a real love for you.
Its quite simple. People want to make it complicated and its not. “If a man loves you he’s going to open up to you” …Shouldn’t he already do that if he is deciding to be in a relationship with you? Why wouldn’t he open up to the woman he wants to date? Love is more simple than that. Its making someone comfortable enough to come talk to you. If they are having a bad day you don’t tell turn the tv on. You be self-sacrificing and sit there until they have gotten it all out. You take an interest in that person so if that person is quite when you know they talk a lot you pry it out of them.
People say keep the fairytale romance movies, I want to struggle I want the pain. I want that passion that craziness. Do you really? If you do good for you. But if deep down inside there is a whisper of something else, just a whisper, what are you really holding on to? It’s quite simple. Love isn’t hard its the people who make it hard.