Don’t Date a Work In Progress

Does it really have to be said that we are living in a world where social media is moving society? Exactly, however, every now and then you will get some one how has a huge platform post one of those shouting emojis with dumb logic and it began to trend on twitter. Because of who that person is, or their fan base, sometimes people don’t dispute the idiocy of said logic; or if they do, their voice is over powered by the masses. Here’s one and my opinion as to why it’s dumb. If you can think of more, comment below or tweet me!

Although the logic “Don’t Date A Work In Progress” is more so geared towards women, it can also go for men. I have a question. Are you dating? If so, you are already dating a work in progress. People who are married are married to works in progress. YOU ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS! Let me explain. We are ever changing, becoming the person we are meant to be, finding ourselves, refining ourselves. We are never complete because humans are imperfect, flawed. So we will always up until our dying day be a work in progress.

Now if you are thinking: “that’s not what that logic is saying, that logic is saying date someone who is stable financially, mentally, spiritually, well rounded, don’t date someone who is working on the core things that you value”. I get where you are coming from. I still don’t agree with it. Why? Because I watched a friend spend his twenties amassing wealth, and in his mid thirties lost everything within 2 years.

What does that mean? That means tomorrow is not promised to us. Anything can happen to us and within a blink of an eye, we become a work in progress: a threat of cancer causes us to lose our faith, an unfortunate happening causes our mentality to waver, a layoff causes us to lose our stability. Now I am not saying date someone in shambles, who isn’t even putting forth effort, all I’m saying is it could possibly be a good thing.

J. Cole says there is beauty in the struggle; I like to add lessons as well. Being in progress can teach you survival skills, humility, kindness, and gratitude. It can thicken skin and sharpen you to handle trials and tribulations. It prepares you to weather the storm TOGETHER if one shall come.

Self-examinations are so important but extremely slept on. Ask yourself, my significant other loses his/her job, would I know how to comfort them, Could my relationship hold up under the pressure it brings? I fall on hard times; can I trust the person I’m investing in to invest in me? Is the person I’m trying to build a future able to emotionally comfort me, mentally sustain me if I lose someone close to death or some other debilitating unfortunate situation takes place?

I don’t think it has to be said that there is nothing wrong with having a preference; there is nothing wrong with having the person who have worked hard to get to where they are in life where they don’t have to worry financially. But there is nothing wrong with dating a work in progress either. Building together has been known to strengthen relationships. It exercises the partner aspect of a relationship. Relationships are full of test; this is one less one you have to pass. Passing on someone because they aren’t where you want them to be in life could mean you’re passing on happiness. Don’t always amen the masses, sometimes, they are wrong.